Living A FUNtastic Life (Part 17)

by Patrick Liew on August 22, 2011

I like to make a confession.

When I first started working, for a short period of time, I liked to compare myself with others.

I liked to compare my career development.

I liked to compare my clothing.

I liked to compare my watches.

I liked to compare my car.

Just for excuses, I like to tell you that I was influenced by the mass media.

They bombarded me constantly with advertisements and promotions that I should be ‘better off’ than the others.

I used to believe that social comparison made me feel better. It’s true – but only for a temporary period of time.

 I thought it could help me plan and work harder. It could drive me to improve myself to achieve better results.

A short while later, I woke up.

I realized that the more I compare, the more negative emotions I would attract into my life. They included envy, insecurity, jealousy, frustration, and resentment.

As I compared myself with others, I became more inclined to have unfavorable comparison.

There are always people who were more successful, wealthier, and more fortunate than me.

In the final analysis, social comparison caused many negative outcomes in my life. I realized that it could lower my self-esteem and self-worth.

It could make me feel threatened and more vulnerable. It might also increase my anxieties, stress, and fears.

As I compare myself with others, I might forgot who I was and should be. I might feel a sense of guilt and lose my peace of mind.

Comparing myself with others made me less willing to help others. It made me an unhappier person.

I discovered that true friends were not attracted to me because of my position and possessions. If they were, these were not worthwhile friends.

When I didn’t compare and compete with others, I could attract a better quality of friendships. I would be in a better position to collaborate and co-create with friends to achieve better results.

There was no point in comparing myself with others. Our Creator has designed me to be uniquely me and to do what nobody else could achieve but me.

When I learned to accept and love myself, I was in a better position to love others and be an asset in their lives.

I discovered that happy people were not negatively influenced by others. They didn’t compare and can’t be bothered about how they compare with others.

They apply a healthy way to judge and feel about themselves.

In addition, happy people see the positive sides of others. They have healthy regards for others, and they wish them well.

They were concerned about other people’s failures and were happy to see them succeed in life.

I ask our Creator to remove social comparison from my life.

I endeavor to live my life for others.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Please go to ‘Notes’ found below my profile picture.

Visit my Inspiration blog at

Visit my Transformation blog at

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!

Question: How can we eliminate social comparison from our lives?


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