Living A FUNtastic Life (Part 10)

by Patrick Liew on August 9, 2011

I was born with a melancholic temperament. As a result, I went through many psychological struggles in life.

The strengths of a melancholic include being analytical and thoughtful. They set a high standard in life and are sensitive to others.

On the other hand, melancholics are inclined to be more of a gloomy loner. They hold a dim and pessimistic view of life.

During my youth, I manifested many of the weaknesses of a melancholic temperament. In particular, I held many negative beliefs and grew up with constant bombardments of negative self-talk.

It came to a point when I suffered from a low self-esteem.

Albert Lee, one of the mentors during my teenage years used to joke, “If you ever go to a Court of Law to defend yourself, you’ll probably convince the judge why you should be guilty?” Ha!

One day, I had a divinely-appointed ‘Aha’ moment. I realized our Creator could change me instantly.

My negative beliefs did not have to make me, me. Self-talk did not have to be true.

Dominating thoughts did not have to become a reality.

My mind is only a part of a complete system that made up my being. It can be disciplined and transformed to serve a higher purpose.

(You can read more details about it under my Love Note, ‘Creating Wealth Part 5 – Renewing My Mind To Create Wealth)

Let me share with you how I transform my pessimism into optimism. How I change my limiting self-talk into empowering self-talk.

First, I put in black-and-white, all my negative beliefs and the resulting negative outcomes.

Secondly, I ask myself empowering questions. I believe the quality of my life is determined by the quantity of quality questions that I constantly ask myself.


What are the negative outcomes from these limiting beliefs?

How can I replace them with empowering beliefs that will help me achieve better results?

How can I live out these empowering beliefs?

Thirdly, I redesigned my beliefs. I committed myself to practicing beliefs that will help me achieve my vision and goals.

Fourthly, to live out these beliefs, I need to replace my negative self-talk with positive affirmations. I endeavor to put them in writing to ensure that I entrenched them in my system.

I ‘force feed’ my mind with positive prayers, thoughts and affirmations. I censor all negative inputs and filter only positive inputs through all my senses.

I consciously avoid ‘energy vampires.’ These are people, including well-intentioned people, who suck my energy with their words and actions.

I have even tied a ribbon around my wrist.


Every time I think negatively or hear a negative word; I will then voice out consciously and emotionally, “Stop!”

Then, I will confront and challenge the negative belief.

Example Of A Negative Self-Talk

“Patrick, you can never be successful.”

I will then question the belief.

“Why can’t I be successful?”

“If I work hard and smart, of course, I can be successful.”

“My mentors have taught me that I can be successful.”

“Our Creator wants me to be successful.”


I will replace the negative belief with an empowering belief.


‘Our Creator designed me to be successful. He wants to help me to be successful.’


As a result of going through this process, I became more positive and optimistic.

I got better results in my life.

I have recorded these experiences so that I can entrench my empowering beliefs. It also became a treasure cove to help me recall the positive emotions and outcomes of living with optimism.

As I share about optimism with my friends, I learned more about it. It strengthened my commitment to enhance my optimistic thinking process.

When I fill my mind with optimistic beliefs and self-talk, I became a happier person.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Please go to ‘Notes’ found below my profile picture.

Visit my Inspiration blog at

Visit my Transformation blog at

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!

Question: How can we enjoy more optimistic beliefs and self-talk?


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