Living A FUNtastic Life (Part 10)

I was born with a melancholic temperament. As a result, I went through many psychological struggles in life.

The strengths of a melancholic include being analytical and thoughtful. They set a high standard in life and are sensitive to others.

On the other hand, melancholics are inclined to be more of a gloomy loner. They hold a dim and pessimistic view of life.

During my youth, I manifested many of the weaknesses of a melancholic temperament. In particular, I held many negative beliefs and grew up with constant bombardments of negative self-talk.

It came to a point when I suffered from a low self-esteem.

Albert Lee, one of the mentors during my teenage years used to joke, “If you ever go to a Court of Law to defend yourself, you’ll probably convince the judge why you should be guilty?” Ha!

One day, I had a divinely-appointed ‘Aha’ moment. I realized our Creator could change me instantly.

My negative beliefs did not have to make me, me. Self-talk did not have to be true.

Dominating thoughts did not have to become a reality.

My mind is only a part of a complete system that made up my being. It can be disciplined and transformed to serve a higher purpose.

(You can read more details about it under my Love Note, ‘Creating Wealth Part 5 – Renewing My Mind To Create Wealth)

Let me share with you how I transform my pessimism into optimism. How I change my limiting self-talk into empowering self-talk.

First, I put in black-and-white, all my negative beliefs and the resulting negative outcomes.

Secondly, I ask myself empowering questions. I believe the quality of my life is determined by the quantity of quality questions that I constantly ask myself.

Example:

What are the negative outcomes from these limiting beliefs?

How can I replace them with empowering beliefs that will help me achieve better results?

How can I live out these empowering beliefs?

Thirdly, I redesigned my beliefs. I committed myself to practicing beliefs that will help me achieve my vision and goals.

Fourthly, to live out these beliefs, I need to replace my negative self-talk with positive affirmations. I endeavor to put them in writing to ensure that I entrenched them in my system.

I ‘force feed’ my mind with positive prayers, thoughts and affirmations. I censor all negative inputs and filter only positive inputs through all my senses.

I consciously avoid ‘energy vampires.’ These are people, including well-intentioned people, who suck my energy with their words and actions.

I have even tied a ribbon around my wrist.

Resist

Every time I think negatively or hear a negative word; I will then voice out consciously and emotionally, “Stop!”

Then, I will confront and challenge the negative belief.

Example Of A Negative Self-Talk

“Patrick, you can never be successful.”

I will then question the belief.

“Why can’t I be successful?”

“If I work hard and smart, of course, I can be successful.”

“My mentors have taught me that I can be successful.”

“Our Creator wants me to be successful.”

Redesign

I will replace the negative belief with an empowering belief.

Example:

‘Our Creator designed me to be successful. He wants to help me to be successful.’

Renew

As a result of going through this process, I became more positive and optimistic.

I got better results in my life.

I have recorded these experiences so that I can entrench my empowering beliefs. It also became a treasure cove to help me recall the positive emotions and outcomes of living with optimism.

As I share about optimism with my friends, I learned more about it. It strengthened my commitment to enhance my optimistic thinking process.

When I fill my mind with optimistic beliefs and self-talk, I became a happier person.

Go4It!

I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Please go to ‘Notes’ found below my profile picture.

Visit my Inspiration blog at http://liewinspiration.wordpress.com

Visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!

Question: How can we enjoy more optimistic beliefs and self-talk?