Releasing From Mental Prisons (Part 6)

by Patrick Liew on October 15, 2011

When I reflected on the past, there were many dark spots in my life. Experiences that have broken my heart and caused my life to wallow in the darkest emotions.

A broken relationship, a betrayal by a friend, a con job that caused me financial misery, a failure that made me lose my self confidence, a sudden death, hurtful words from people I love…

Over the years, I have learned to be at peace and even love these experiences. I learned to put things in proper perspective. How I see life will determine what life will be to me.

I like to share with you different perspectives to look at negative experiences.

Perspective of Purpose

I ask myself, “Do I see negative experiences as problems to destroy me or as opportunities to help me live a meaningful, exciting and fulfilling life?”

Truth be told, every experience contains seeds of adversity or opportunity.

Sometimes, within one seed, there are also possibilities for both adversity and opportunity.

When I focus on the positive purpose – even if it is the size of a tiny speck and hardly unnoticeable – and if I nurture it properly, it can become a part of a beautiful garden in my mind.

To go and grow through a negative experience, I ask myself,

“How can I learn from this experience?

“How can I become a better person and live a better life?

“How can it make me a stronger and more resilient person?

“How can I build on it so as to have a better character and a brighter future?

“How it can help me appreciate myself, love life, and enjoy a FUNtastic future?”

Perspective from the Endpoint

I look at the negative experience from the perspective of being at the end of my life.

I will ask myself, how should I feel about this experience at the end of my life?

Will it be a pain or a gain in my life?

Will I regret or celebrate over it?

It will be very obvious to me that I need to turn it in into an experience that I can be proud of. One that I can share with my loved ones at the end of my life.

One that I could post on social media (if it still exists) so that my friends can be inspired by it.

The ‘end-point me’ will want the ‘current me’ to take the right action in the right way so as to achieve the right results.

Perspective of a Solution-Mindset

Our Creator has created our mind to lead and manage the resources in the world around us. He has designed systems within our being to resolve problems and come out with solutions.

We are creative beyond any human measure – because we are created by the all-knowing, all-powerful, and all-present God.

It is only logical to determine the source of my challenges and whatever triggers my anguish and anxiety.

My solution-mindset will want me to explore all the options, including avoiding them, going around them, or focusing on other better battles in my life.

My solution-mindset will tell me to love, accept and appreciate myself.

It will direct me to learn, grow, and improve myself so that I will be in a better position to handle challenges.

To quote the famous words of Sir Edmund Hillary after his failed attempt to climb Mt. Everest, “I will come again and conquer you because as a mountain (challenge) you can’t grow, but as a human, I can.”

Meanwhile, I will take time to focus on other positive aspects of life. I will indulge in them, enjoy them and seek to have more FUNtastic experiences.

My solution-mindset will say to me, “Patrick, turn the experience from being a roadblock to a spring board to achieve success in life. A cornerstone and not a milestone so as to bring out the best in your life and help you live life to the fullest.”

Perspective of the Potential Possibilities and the Power of My Dreams

We are created to have dreams.

It is the dreams in our lives that keep us alive.

What’s exciting is that I am created to have the latent potential and abilities to achieve them.

When I choose to be energized by my dreams, I will soon realize the power of dreams to energise my life. The same power that will cause me to put down the burdens and baggages of my mind to focus on achieving my dreams.

What I pursue will determine the destination in my life. How I perceive life will determine what life will be to me.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Please go to ‘Notes’ found below my profile picture.

Visit my Transformation blog at

Visit my Inspiration blog at

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


Question: How can we adopt the right perspective about our negative experiences?


Powered by Facebook Comments

Comments on this entry are closed.

Previous post:

Next post: