Learning To Say “No” (Part 4) – Being Mindful Of The Negatives For Not Saying “No”

by Patrick Liew on December 29, 2011

Learning To Say “No” is an adopted attitude, committed discipline, and cultivated skillset.

To enhance the learning process, I need to reflect on my past failures for not saying “No.” I need to remember the resulting pain and other negative outcomes.

In many cases, I felt bad for accepting an unworthy request right from the beginning. As a result, it affected me physically, mentally, and psychologically.

I had to stretch my limited time, energy and other resources to fulfill both my current and new obligations. I found myself in difficult situations that demanded even more of my limited resources.

When I say “Yes” to invalid requests, I feel I’m wasting my life participating in many unworthy tasks, meetings, projects and other activities.

All these factors affected my performance and results for both new and old commitments.

Instead of being of help, I sometimes became a problem – to myself and to others. It affected both my relationships and my reputation.

Meanwhile, I cannot fulfill my obligations to my loved ones and to my career. I was prevented from improving myself and capitalizing on opportunities.

I was held back from performing more important tasks and achieving more worthy results. By saying “Yes,” it jeopardized my personal dreams and social missions.

When I remember these past failures and more importantly learn from them, it will enhance my foundation to make a wise decision.

I will become more focused on adopting the right attitude, disciplining myself and cultivating the skill to say “No.”

I will be on my way to become a wiser and more productive person. I will achieve greater success with my life.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com/

Visit my Inspiration blog at http://liewinspiration.wordpress.com/

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!

Think: How can I remember the downsides of not saying “No”?


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