Learning To Say “No” (Part 5) – Focus On The Positives Of Saying “No”

by Patrick Liew on December 31, 2011

Learning to say “No” means I can say “Yes” to more important pursuits. I can enjoy the best values in life.

I must always remember that on one hand I have worthy dreams but limited resources to fulfill them. On the other hand, there will always be a growing number of good requests.

If I say “Yes” to the requests, I have to balance my life and recalibrate my schedule to fulfill both obligations. I have to count the costs and see if it will distract me from my worthy goals to bless more people.

At all times, I must focus on the virtues of saying “No.”

By doing that, it will help me make a wiser decision. Let me share some of upsides of saying “No.”

1. Saying “No” is not negative. It can be the right and honorable thing to do.   

I can feel proud of myself for being honest and authentic. I did not compromise on my principle to do the right thing rightly.

2. Saying “No” means I am in a better position to fulfill my obligations and discharge my responsibilities.   

I can perform my rightful duties in an effective and efficient way for my family, friends, colleagues and other people. I can focus on and commit my limited resources to achieving the best results.

3. Saying “No” should help me earn respect.  

When I say “No” to friends, they know I have evaluated the request and will not be in a position to help them. They will appreciate that I will not abandon them and create more problems at a later stage.

4. Saying “No” frees me up to capitalize on more opportunities.  

I am in a better position and have more choices to support more worthwhile causes. I can make wiser decisions.

I have more time at hand to improve myself and explore other possibilities in life. I can also achieve better outcomes for the people and environment around me.

5. Saying “No” can value-add to the other party.

I must be mindful that I’m offering a helping hand and not a hand-out. I should not unwittingly make the other party feel that my time is not as valuable as theirs.

By saying “No,” it encourages the other party to step up and take full responsibility to do the right thing. It may become a more meaningful and fruitful partnership.

6. Saying “No” helps me fulfill my worthy goals and dreams. 

With my limited time, energy and other resources, I have to give due consideration to my worthy goals and dreams.

When I say “No,” I will be in a better position to improve my performance. I can enhance my momentum to turn my dreams into a reality.

7. Saying “No” can be a healthy choice.  

If I do not say “No” when I should, it will cause undue stress and anxiety. I may put myself on an emotional low and drain my energy, especially if I cannot deliver on my agreement properly.

All these factors may ultimately affect my overall well-being. It may affect my health which will lead to a cascading effect of negative outcomes.

When I am being approached with a request, I will consider the virtues of saying “No.” If I cannot help myself, it is unlikely I can help the other party.

I must be able to manage my life effectively so that I can help others with their lives.

When I say “No” to invalid requests, I will carry a lighter baggage. I can do more and do better with my limited resources. I will travel farther and faster in life.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com/

Visit my Inspiration blog at http://liewinspiration.wordpress.com/

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


Think: How can I focus on the positives of saying “No?”


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