Letting Go Of The Past (Part C)

by Patrick Liew on July 31, 2011

In Part B, I shared about how I had to forgive every person who had wronged me in my life. I thought it was one of the toughest things to do in my life.

After completing the long and difficult process, I felt really good about myself. That’s when I sensed our Creator asking me to proceed to the second part of the journey.

I was to contact each and every one of them. I could have done something to trigger their negative reactions against me.

I had to ask them to forgive me.

I had to say “I’m sorry” to all of them.

My heart sank.

Every part of my being fought against the idea.

I was actually paralysed to carry out the exercise. I was too stunned to do anything for quite awhile.

Eventually I started – but with a lot of reluctance. I had to first locate every one of them.

Remember, I had severed my relationships with them.

I was out of contact with many of them. Many of the experiences also happened a long time ago.

It seems strange but somehow the forces converged and I was able to find them.

One by one, I had to ask them with a lot of difficulty, “Will you forgive me?”

After apologizing to them, I also wished them well in their lives. This exercise went on and off for a long period of time.

Finally, I came to the last person – the one that caused me the most pain and misery. My whole body literally shooked when I told him, “I am sorry. Please forgive me”.

When the conversation ended, I felt like my ego had been crushed. A huge rock had rolled off my chest.

I had this feeling if I could carry out this exercise with the help of our Creator, I could do almost anything. Nothing could hold me back.

I felt so light that I could fly. And I did soar higher in my life.

I wished I had completed the exercise earlier.

 I was carrying the invisible baggage in my heart. I was carrying a huge burden as I traveled on the journey of life.

I resolved to always forgive others and to ask for forgiveness when necessary.

So, if I have done anything wrong to you, I am sorry.

If my family or my company has done anything wrong by you, as the servant-leader, I want to take full responsibility for it. Will you forgive us?

In closing, I like to ask you to model after Mr Nelson Mandela.

Mr Mandela was put into prison in South America for 27 years under an absurd charge. After he was released, he chose to habour no ill-feelings against his jailors and to forgive them.

In the movie, Invictus, Mr Mandela was quoted to have said, “Forgiveness liberates the soul.”

I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Please go to ‘Notes’ found below my profile picture.

Visit my Inspiration blog at http://liewinspiration.wordpress.com

Visit my Transformation blog at http://hsrpatrickliew.wordpress.com

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


Question: How can we forgive and remove the negative emotions from our being?



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helena teo July 6, 2012 at 12:01 am

Shalom Patrick, thank you for your sharing on Say Boon. Life-long friendships are seeded from days of the way we were and the roots and shoots grown in the living light of our Creator God and even from the dark nights of our souls. Blessed are you both being able to speak from your beings, raw and true from deep within yourselves. I am glad to read you both had a heart-to-heart sharing … that one last time … that blessed gift of that moment which is your memory for keeps! I appreciate your writing: simple. transparent. believer. sharer. mentor. The sharing on forgiveness (the complete process shared) is a timely guide for me. Blessings from AmberAutumn. Blessings of our Creator God be upon you always.

Patrick Liew July 6, 2012 at 10:28 am

Thank you for reading. True friends are rare. We cannot do enough to love them and to extend our acts of kindness to them.

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