Creating Wealth Part 12 – Building Positive Relationships

by Patrick Liew on February 5, 2012

My nett worth will be inclined towards the average nett worth of my friends.

To increase my nett worth, I must build positive relationships. I must develop different platforms to help me become a better person so as to achieve better results in life.

There are 7 key principles to build positive relationships.

1. Enroll  

I need to select my friends. These are people who share similar values and are committed to help each other achieve positive relationships and win-win results.

To be realistic, not everybody will reciprocate positively when I extend my hands of friendship to them. I need to focus on the people who respond to me and to work towards getting a positive response.

2. Exemplify 

If I want a friend, I must first be a friend to them. I need to constantly ask myself, “How can I be the best of friends to attract them?”

I need to begin by loving and being comfortable with myself. Then, I have to believe that I can contribute positively to my friends and work towards doing so.

My emotional stability will help me win more friends. On the other hand, if I am emotionally unstable, it will repel them from me.

When I bring out the best from myself, I can also bring out the best from others.

3. Enliven  

Relationships, like plants, have to be properly sowed, nourished and nurtured. I need to plan for it and commit to take the necessary actions and invest the right resources to make it work.

When I’m with a friend, I have to be mindful to offer them my full presence. I will strive to give them my complete attention – my body, mind and spirit will have to be there for them.

I want to be sensitive to their thoughts and feelings and make them feel comfortable with me. Only after I have successfully connected with them, then can I be in a position to collaborate with them.

I need to spend time to know them on a heart-to-heart level. To do so, I need to open up to them.

If need be, I need to be vulnerable to them, including working with them through the down periods. I may have to share with them the flaws and failures in my life.

4. Empower

The best way to empower the relationship is to live by the Golden Rule, ‘I will do to others what I want others to do to me. I will not do to others what I don’t want others to do to me.’

If I want to be loved, I will have to love others. To be appreciated, I need to appreciate others.

If I want to be respected, I need to earn it and to extend my respect to my friends.

I need to extend my trust and build a relationship based on trust. Without trust, there will never be a positive relationship.

5. Encourage  

People like people who like them. They will rise up to the level of my beliefs in their potential and performance.

I endeavour to look out for the good in my friends and expect the best from them.

I also endeavour to make others feel good about themselves. I aim to edify them and to help them achieve more in their lives.

Every person has his own strengths and achievements. I will help to strengthen these values in their lives.

I will take every opportunity to shower them with my affirmation and appreciation. I will compliment and praise them – sincerely, appropriately and generously.

I will recognize their good deeds privately as well as publicly. I will do everything possible to inspire them for greater success.

6. Enrich

In My HSR, we believe, ‘The best life is a life lived for others. The more we reach out to bless other lives, the richer and better our lives will become.’ This is the foundation to build lasting friendships.

That’s why I will continue to improve on my Friendship Quotient – my ability to add value to my relationships. Same reason why I will invest a lot of time, energy and money to learn, improve and become a better person.

I want to constantly value-add and be more useful to my friends.

I like to find out my friend’s goals and aspirations. I want to be their cheer leader and if possible, play a part in helping them fulfill their visions in life.

As I journey with them, I hope to keep my ears open and be sensitive to their needs. With no strings attached, I want to be a plus factor in their lives.

It can be a simple word of encouragement, an act of kindness, or a helping hand to resolve an issue and help them live a better life.

I want them to know I will stand by them – old-timers like me call it ‘Yi Qi’ in Chinese. They can count on me to be with them in both good and bad times.

The more values I add to their lives, the greater will be my sense of purpose and fulfillment in life. It will also help to secure and strengthen my friendships.

7. Endear 

When I think of all the endearing friendships I had in life, it came about mainly because of the experiences we went through together and the beautiful memories we shared.

Although many of these experiences resulted from circumstances, a lot of them were deliberately created by one of us.

I hope I will never be too busy to create happy memories – for my loved ones and for my friends.

To do so, I need to use my creative juices to come out with exciting experiences and even pleasant surprises.

My friends and I should be able to indulge in them again and again in our future meetings and through aide de memoire such as photos and gift items.

As I develop more positive relationships, I will live a more positive life.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Visit my Transformation blog at

Visit my Inspiration blog at

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


Wealth refers to the condition of well-being. It includes my physical, emotional, social and environmental well-being

Having the resources to help others and myself live a meaningful, exciting and fulfilling life in a healthy environment

Anything that grows wealth

Anything that decreases wealth

Having the money and material possessions to achieve the same aspiration for being wealthy

Money is the instrument to facilitate transaction of products and services. It is a measurement of the results of a Wealth Plan

Wealth Plan
An effective and an ever-improving blueprint to create wealth


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Jovi Sen Joon February 10, 2012 at 6:09 pm

Dear Mr. Patrick,

thank you for being such an inspirational role model to me.
Your articles are gems, and I am grateful for your kind words and motivational blogs.

Life is FUNtastic !!

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