Managing Stress (Part G)

by Patrick Liew on July 25, 2011


As I reflected on my life, I realized I have always been a driven person. I like to challenge limits and push the boundaries.

I endeavour to defy the odds and achieve breakthrough results.

You can imagine I have come face to face with many major challenges in life and put myself through extremely stressful situations.

Along the way, I learned some useful tips and traps about how to handle stressful people and experiences.

  1. Plan. I plan for my life so that I know how I can direct my limited resources to achieve worthwhile goals.

By doing that, I ensure I prioritise my actions. I aim to major on the majors, and ‘minor on the minors’.

  1. Simplify. I simplify my life so that I don’t have to carry unnecessary burdens and baggages. They can cause me undue stress.
  2. 3.       Perspective. I aim to see every situation from a helicopter perspective. When I do that, the problems become smaller and more manageable.

One question that I will ask myself in managing stress is, “Twenty years from today, what will this situation mean to me?”

This question helps me to put things in proper perspective and to see life from a wholistic point of view.

I learn to see the good in every situation. I seek to improve the situation at an appropriate time and pace.

In addition, I learn to be grateful and thankful for all the beauty and wonders in life. The stress that I go though becomes less formidable and less pressuring.

  1. Flee. I endeavour to avoid people and situations that cause unnecessary stress. They do not help me to fulfill my dreams and goals.

I ensure that I minimize my exposure to stressors. It includes not watching television and reading negative articles.

There are some issues that I am not adept at handling eg. politicking etc. I avoid them or ensure I minimized my involvements in them.

  1. Focus. I learn early on in my life to say ‘No’.

If it is beyond my capacity and capability, I will not take on the added responsibilities and put myself in a vulnerable position.

  1. Fight. I learn how to work with people and adapt to the situation.

I learn how to voice my disagreements and share my feelings. I will work towards synergistic relationships so that I can achieve win-win outcomes.

When I reflect on all the stressful experiences, I realized they have a purpose and place in my life. They made me a more resilient person.

After every challenge, I am in a better position to handle bigger challenges.

Even if I fail to handle the challenges, it will make me a more humble and approachable person.

In the final analysis, these challenges help to determine the things that are truly worth fighting for.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

By the way, I have also recorded other reflections.

Please go to ‘Notes’ found below my profile picture.

Visit my Inspiration blog at

Visit my Transformation blog at

Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


Question:  How can we change every stressful situation – rise above and leverage on it to achieve better outcomes in life?


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