Value Of A Smile

by Patrick Liew on August 16, 2019

Value Of A Smile

Recently, I shook hands with three persons and on three different occasions.

They asked me the same age-old question, “Patrick, how’re you?”

While responding to the question, I was studying the body language of the first person.

Quite clearly, he had no interest in me.

The second person couldn’t wait for me to finish to start the real agenda – his agenda.

The third person was only interested to sell me his product.

Whichever way I changed the subject and whatever I said, somehow he was able to bring me back to his business.

On all three occasions, I was actually quite amused and could have burst out laughing.

I thought to myself, “What if I had replied, “I’m about to commit suicide,” would they have continued according to their hidden agenda?”

I was sure the third person would sell to me with a greater sense of urgency.

I have been diligently studying the art of smiling and handshake for many years.

That, to me is the start and one of the most important parts of a long and beautiful relationship.

Done correctly, your relationships will start taking traction.

Otherwise, everything may just roll downhill.

Let me share with you about three Masters of smiling and handshakes, people who have made the greatest impact on me when they held my hands.

In 2002, our company invited President Bill Clinton to deliver a lecture in Singapore.

During his visit, it was such a great experience to interact with him and observe a Master of smiling and handshake in action.

I could tell that he put in a lot of himself into every handshake.

He would hold the hands longer than normal to make it special for the other party.

Stare into the other person’s eyes and give them his megawatt heartfelt smile.

It seemed like nothing could distract him during that moment.

It was not surprising that many people told me subsequently and with almost the same words, ‘When I shook his hands, I felt like the world had disappeared. There were only two of us facing each other.”

Another Master of handshakes is Mr Alfred Wong, the Executive Chairman of Noel Holding, a publicly-listed company on Singapore Exchange.

Before he even held my hands, he made me feel like I’m a long lost friend and he had been waiting for awhile to see me.

I could feel the warmth exuding from his smile and from every part of his being.

When he held on to my hands, it was not just a handshake.

It was like we were two brothers connected for a special purpose.

When he smiled at me, the smile went straight to my heart. It was an electrifying moment.

Last but not least, another Master of handshakes is Dr David Lim, my ex- Senior Pastor.

I need to let you know that Dr Lim was a prodigy in school, having gone to University at the age of 15.

He started preaching shortly thereafter and while serving in the church, he completed his doctorate degree in a prestigious institution.

He is a very intelligent man and if I may add, a leader of many talents and accomplishments.

Before I shook his hands, I could feel his humility. A sense of sincerity that I’m important to him.

Dr Lim would not only shake my hands with passion and respect, he would tilt his head and so gently bow to me.

He made me feel good about meeting him and feel good about myself too.

When he asked, “How’re you?” I knew it was not a perfunctory question.

He meant it with all his heart and with only good intention.

He would look me into my eyes and wait.

He wanted to listen to me – I could feel it.

He would express care and concern and want to see if there were anything he could do for me.

He once told me, “When I shake hands with every person in church, I’ll pray for their well being in my heart.” Wow!

Model yourself after these three Masters when you smile and hold on to another pair of hands.

Replicate their magic and soon, you’ll find the world smiling more heartily, regularly, and longer at you.

Keep smiling until the world can’t help but smile back at you.

Go4It!

I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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