Managing Stress (Part E)

by Patrick Liew on July 22, 2011

A good friend from another country was trying to contact me through different channels. Finally, he managed to contact me through facebook.

I have not met him for a long time but he felt I could help him with some personal matters. During the meeting, he poured his heart out to me about the challenges in his life.

I spent some time encouraging him. In addition, I decided to ‘pull some strings’ to resolve his issues.

While listening to him, it occurred to me that stress has to do with responding to challenges that seemed to be beyond my control.

Therefore, if I cannot change the situation, I have to change myself.

I have to change how I respond to the stressors and manage them in my life.

First, I need to manage myself.

I need to:

  • Improve my attitude – Do I see stress as a reality or am I in self-denial about it?

Is it a strengthening experience or a strangling experience? Do I want to come out of it as a better or bitter person?

  •  Take full responsibility – Do I take full responsibility over my stress or do I blame, justify and give excuses about it?
  • Make wise choices and take charge – Do I want to do something about it or do I leave it to the winds?
  • Change my habits – To better manage stress, how should I change and improve my thought processes, lifestyle, and environment?

If I don’t learn to lead and manage myself, my stress level will remain outside of my control. It will be hard for me to resolve it.


I hope this message will find a place in your heart.

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Please read them and continue to teach me.

Life is FUNtastic!


Question: How can we change ourselves so that we can better manage our lives?


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